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Relationship with gay closeted?

I’ve met a guy I’ve met through an online dating site and have moved in to his city a few months after we’ve begun talking VIA instant messaging. Hes a very sweet guy and I like him very much. We’ve made out and got intimate a few times. We hold hands in the car while we listen to music and hes open to displays of affection in private. However when we are in public, in front of his parents, or friends, he would only introduce me as a friend and would deflect my attempts to hold his hand. He and I have acknowledged the fact that we would both like to engage in a long term relationship, but this is casting doubt. I do not want to force him to come out as I understand it is a painful experience (for some) and is his personal choice. I just want to be there for him and be able to give him a helping hand whenever he needs it. I just feel a little dissapointed to be not be able to show the world my love for him and being ‘stuffed’ back in the closet. Words of advice are appreciated!

If you want to be with him and he doesn’t want to come out to his parents and friends, then you need to accept and abide by that completely. If you knew that he was very private with his sexuality when you met him and accepted it then, you need to accept it now. There are things in life we do for love and respecting the wishes of the one you care about it one of them. If you break the trust he has in you by forcing him out, you may lose him forever.

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